A Few Thoughts

Credit for art above is Danielle Coke, @ohhappydani on Instagram

Housekeeping note: I originally posted this message above my weekly distractions, but it didn’t feel right, so I’ve separated them into two posts. 

Hey y’all—if you’ve been reading here for a while, you know that I started my Monday distractions series as a way to share the things I was loving and doing during quarantine; but we should not be distracted from the very important conversations we’ve all been having about race in this country over the weekend and into this week.

I outraged over the murder of George Flyod and am heartbroken for his and the countless other families mourning irreplaceable losses; being Black in America should not be a death sentence. I’ve had some tough conversations, with myself and those around me, about my white privilege—especially after watching this video that shows Black parents teaching their children how to deal with the police, a conversation I never once had with my parents growing up. There is so much more I can be doing to be a better ally to people of color, and working to dismantle and root out racism.

I do not have all the answers, and I’m afraid of saying the wrong things. But I’d rather say something and have the opportunity to learn than not say anything at all. I wanted to share this excerpt from A Cup of Jo on becoming anti-racist—you can read her full post here.

In the words of Angela Davis, “it is not enough to be not racist, you must actively be anti-racist.” We have to actively recognize our privilege and confront racism, as well as learning and listening as much as we can. It’s not enough to just be neutral and live your life; we have to actually do the work.

One of the first steps is to realize that even people with the best intentions can be racist in some ways. We all have unconscious biases — views we’ve absorbed from society and may not even realize we hold — and we need to recognize these before we can do the work of dismantling them. “It’s not: either you’re racist or you’re not. It’s to what degree are you prejudiced, against whom, and why?” says Padma Lakshmi. “To be socially conscious, we must unlearn toxic attitudes and behavior that have been passed down to us over generations in our communities or even in our families. We all need to question our biases, educate ourselves and commit to bettering ourselves.”

“The beauty of anti-racism is that you don’t have to pretend to be free of racism to be an antiracist,” says writer Ijeoma Oluo. “Anti-racism is the commitment to fight racism wherever you find it, including in yourself. And it’s the only way forward.”

In addition to working to better educate myself, I also want to take action.

To start, I donated to the NCAAP Legal Defense Fund. This article has some great ideas for how you can take action, as well as other places to donate.

If you’re in DC, here is a list of Black-owned restaurants open in DC and Maryland open during the COVID-19 pandemic. And regardless of where you live, here’s a list of Black-owned businesses you can shop online.

And, of course, a lot of the ways I plan to take action are offline: talking to my friends and family about these issues, calling out racism when I see it, and working to educate myself by listening to Black voices.

Black lives matter.


5 Distractions I’m Loving Right Now, 6/1

Black Lives Matter.

Housekeeping note: I originally posted some thoughts about racism above my weekly distractions, but it didn’t feel right because we can’t be distracted by the important work that needs to be done, so I’ve separated them into two posts. 


DC entered into phase one of restrictions lifted on Friday, and as such, I’m going to sunset this series after today’s post. I’ll still share a lot of similar content in life lately posts, it just won’t be on a weekly cadence anymore. I’ve started leaving my apartment for meals on patios and non-essential errands (while still taking precautions—wearing a mask, social distancing, washing my hands like a crazy person), so I feel like I’ve got some semblance of my “normal” life back, and am keeping my fingers crossed that we continue to see community spread decline.

Thank you for reading this series and for all the positive comments about my “quarantine” content, both here on the blog and over on Instagram.

Image credit for the art above: Tobehonest.

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Link Love #138

Hey y’all—HAPPY FRIDAY! Don’t you just love short weeks? This work week really flew by, and I think next week will too as I have so many meetings already on the calendar.

I am excited because today, both Washington, DC and nearby Northern Virginia enter into phase one of reopening. I know that this decision brings about a range of emotion—nervousness, anxiety, and maybe even anger from some. I think as we begin to reopen more places across the country, it’s so important to respect others decisions about how to handle this continuously evolving environment. I have friends that are ready to get back out in the world and I have friends that are choosing to stay home and see how things play out—and I totally understand both courses of action. My friend Heather said it well in her blogpost yesterday, “I believe we’re at a point where you have to do what you’re comfortable with, while also mitigating risk as much as possible.”

That being said, I’m ready to get outside of the four walls of my apartment, and will be taking advantage of some of the loosened restrictions, while also being as safe as possible—maintaining social distancing, wearing a mask, washing my hands like a crazy person. Tonight, I’m going with some family (my sister and her roommate, my cousin—I’ve been seeing them some the last two months; living alone is very isolating and I touched a bit on this in Tuesday’s post) to The Lot in Clarendon for a drink. It’s all outside and we’ll socially distance from other patrons and wear masks—a small price to pay to keep everyone safe. But, y’all, I am so excited to enjoy a drink al fresco at a proper establishment—TGIF indeed! Then, later this weekend, I made an appointment to get my hair cut for the first time since December. My hair stylist sent out a notice about her practices, and it seems like they are taking great care with everything. She works in her own loft, not in a large salon, so that also makes me feel better about things. We’ll see how it goes.

I hope you all have a great weekend, whatever you’re up to! x
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