In my reader survey responses, a few of you asked about how I made friends as a twenty-something after college/how to make friends in a big city/how to make new friends. I am very lucky—in the four years I’ve been out of college, I’ve been able to keep in touch with some of my best friends from previous chapters of life and meet a slew of wonderful new friends that bring so much joy and a jammed packed social calendar to my life. (My personality type is ENTJ if that tells you anything.)
I will say, right before I graduated college, I remember being so anxious that fourth year would be the last time in my life that I lived the same place as all my friends. Which, now looking back, I think that particular time of transition was bringing out my biggest fear, which is being truly alone and unloved.
Someone older and wiser than me told me that was the wrong way to look at things—that wherever I moved, I’d make friends there, and then all my friends would live in the same place as me again. And the friends that didn’t live there, well, that would make for an easy way to pick weekend getaway vacations.
I didn’t really believe her at the time, but she was so right. While I have some amazing friends who live in New York, San Francisco, heck even Loudoun County, I’ve found that for the most part, I live in the same place as all my friends again.
So, I thought today I’d share the different ways I met the majority of my closest friends in case you are looking to meet friends in a new city, want to expand your friend group or social calendar, or are just plain curious.Read More